Showing posts with label a guide to work through your nightmares. Show all posts
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Monday, December 22, 2025

How to Use Your Nightmares for Growth

 

Abstract dream imagery showing fear turning into insight, representing growth and healing through facing nightmares.

When Nightmares Bring Healing: How Dark Dreams Offer Closure

Nightmares get a bad reputation.
We wake up shaken, unsettled, and sometimes afraid to fall back asleep.
But what if the very dream that terrifies you is actually the one that’s helping you the most?

Last night, I had two dreams—one a full-on horror scene, the other deeply ancestral and spiritual.
When I stepped back and looked at them as symbols instead of threats, something powerful unfolded.

Nightmares aren’t always warnings.
Sometimes they’re closures, clearing out old emotional debris and revealing what’s finally ready to be released

 Dream One: The House, the Disappearing People, and the Dark Basement

The dream opened in a house filled with people of all ages and backgrounds.
But people kept disappearing.
And somehow, I wasn’t just living there—I was watching it happen from a higher awareness.

A man in the house was taking people into a basement, killing them behind a closed door, drowning their screams with strange music.
The basement was pitch black.
At the bottom of the stairs, one direction led to a room someone lived in; the other, a long hallway into a frightening darkness.

At one point I followed an older woman, who gently opened door after door but found nothing.
I remember telling her, “I don’t like to see the monster because then you know what it is.”
She didn’t respond—she didn’t need to.

Later, someone else disappeared.
This time I said, “Someone will notice she’s gone. She has friends here.”
The awareness was growing.

Then I handed my ex a simple spoon and sent him into the hall to see what was happening.
“Make sure no one can tell you were there,” I said.

This dream was dark.
Violent.
A full-on nightmare.

But symbolically?
It was deeply healing.

 How This Nightmare Was Really a Clearing

In dream symbolism:

  •  The house is my inner world.

  • The disappearing people are old identities, patterns, and emotional habits ready to leave.

  • The killer represents the part of me removing what no longer serves me.

  • The basement is the subconscious—where old fears live.

  • The older woman is my intuition showing me there’s actually nothing to fear behind those doors.

  • My ex appearing symbolizes returning old responsibilities to where they belong.

Nightmares like this show us where we’ve matured.

I'm not running.
I'm observing.

I'm not being overpowered.
I'm handing things back that were never mine to carry.

I was not trapped in the basement.
I'm seeing what’s leaving my life—and what I no longer need to keep alive.

This is the kind of nightmare that marks an emotional closing chapter.

 Dream Two: The Young Mother in the Church

The second dream shifted completely.

A woman who looked like my mom—but younger—knelt inside a Catholic church during a ceremony.
Next to her, another woman, and a black-and-white photo of them both.
A relative in the dream gave me a name I can’t remember, and I said, “She lived a full life.”

My mother stood up abruptly, transforming the whole feeling of the dream into something like a life review or ancestral healing moment.
The woman could have been my mother, my grandmother, or even earlier generations—they all look so similar in old photos.

This dream felt like lineage.
Like a thread from the women who came before me.

 How This Dream Offered Closure

When a parent appears young in a dream, it symbolizes:

  • returning to your roots

  • understanding your lineage

  • witnessing generational healing

  • clearing old emotional imprints

  • seeing your family through a new perspective

The black-and-white photo represents ancestral memory—stories stored in the family line.

And my mother standing up felt like a shift.
A release.
An ending of a cycle.

This wasn’t a nightmare—it was closure, too.
But in a quieter, gentler way.

 Why Nightmares Can Be Healing

Most people fear nightmares because of how they feel.
But when we look at them symbolically—not literally—they become some of the most healing dreams we ever have.

Nightmares often appear when:

  • Something in your life is ending

  • Old emotional patterns are being cleared

  • You’re stepping into a higher awareness

  • You’re breaking a cycle

  • You’re finally ready to face what’s been buried

  • You’re closing generational wounds

The darkness isn’t there to punish you.
It’s there to show you what’s leaving.

A nightmare is often your subconscious doing deep work you can’t consciously do during the day.

It’s emotional surgery.

It’s a purge.

It’s closure.

 

If you’ve had a nightmare lately, try asking yourself:

1. What part of me is being released or transformed?
2. What old role or fear am I outgrowing?
3. What am I finally observing instead of being consumed by?
4. What doorway am I scared to open—and why?
5. Is this dream showing me an ending I’m ready for?

Nightmares aren’t curses.
They are invitations.
Powerful, symbolic turning points.

And when you write them down and interpret them, the healing becomes conscious—not just subconscious.

 Want to Work With Your Nightmares Instead of Avoiding Them?

My 30 Day Dream Mapping Journal on Amazon gives you the space, prompts, and structure to explore dreams—especially nightmares—in a healing way.

 Track patterns
 Notice cycles
 Break emotional habits
 Understand the symbols
 Transform fear into insight

If your dreams are getting darker or more symbolic, that’s often a sign of deep internal change.
Your journal becomes the bridge between unconscious healing and conscious clarity.

 Try the 30 Day Dream Mapping Journal for yourself

Saturday, January 21, 2023

A Guide To Work Through Your Nightmares By Deedee Jebrail

 




Nightmares are real and can be traumatic events. There are Movies made from these dreams; remember Nightmare on Elm Street? Nightmares can spill over to our waking lives. Our sleep and waking lives are connected.

Wes Craven, the creator of the Nightmare on Elm Street movie, was inspired by a story he read in the L.A. Times about a family that had survived the Killing Fields in Cambodia. They made it to the United States, but a young boy in the family still found himself haunted by terrible nightmares while he slept. The young boy died after having a series of nightmares. The boy stayed awake for days. Finally, he told his parents something was chasing him in his nightmares. He was afraid that if he fell asleep, it would get him. Exhausted, the boy finally fell asleep. Sometime during the night, the boy's screams woke his parents. They found him dead.

No wonder we fear nightmares so much and don't want to revisit them. So instead, I want to show you why we should and how it will benefit us in our sleep and waking lives.

 

Nightmares are dreams that cause a strong but unpleasant emotional response. Nightmares usually happen during sleep when REM intervals lengthen; these tend to happen halfway through sleep. Then, as we prepare to awaken, memories begin to combine.

We dream as we transition from REM sleep. Because we tend to dream at the sleep-wake point,  referred to as the twilight zone, images imagined while dreaming, including the vivid, often terrifying images produced during nightmares, are remembered.

Nightmares happen for several reasons—stress, anxiety, irregular sleep, medications, and mental health disorders. The most studied cause is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). However, there are places to reach out for help. If nightmares plague you, talk to your doctor.

 

 I want to discuss the subconscious notice-me nightmare. The symbols might be scary, but you have a nightmare once in a while, and it is about taking notice of a situation.

I had a nightmare so scary it took me 35 years to analyze. Finally, I found I did not need to be afraid; it was a dream of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling my life.

 

 

My Nightmare

I was lying in bed, not asleep. It was early, maybe just past dusk. I had been to a church that told me to ask the Holy Spirit to possess my soul so no other entity could. They gave me a prayer. I don't remember the prayer. That is an important detail. As I prayed, a man-type figure flew from the sky and fell onto me like a slab of meat. This being was like all human muscles with no skin, not male or female. The entity then put its wrists over my wrists, ankles over my ankles, and the rest floated above me. We only touch our wrists and ankles. It was so solid and heavy that I could not move. It then began to steal my breath, and I thought, oh no, it was killing me! I started to say I rebuke you in the name of Jesus, but I kept saying I rebuke you in the name of Satan over and over again. I was so scared. I finally pictured the letter J, E, then S, and it was gone. I sat up! That is a scary nightmare, especially when you sit up choking for air!

The meaning of the dream

This dream is about the restoration of the mind, spiritual guidance, the need to relinquish worries, and the need to develop inner strength to become more confident. This dream was telling me I had the power.

 

This is a guide to working out those nightmares

Write out your dream as a memory, look up and write the symbols with definitions, use every detail of your dream, and analyze it. You need to know what the subconscious wants you to understand.

Write a different positive ending for your dream. Review it before you go to sleep. Give it a good, empowering end where you defeat the monsters or the beast is just a jacket on the chair. If you are a lucid dreamer, you can do it within the dream.

Be careful what you watch or allow yourself to see. I like to watch something relaxing or funny before sleep. The subconscious could use images you see throughout your day as a later symbol.

Place a Black Tourmaline crystal on your nightstand. It is said to protect you from negative thoughts and harmful spirits. I like to hold mine anytime I feel negative thoughts or enter a negative situation. I also place mine on my computer for protection.

Work on the things that happen in your waking life that are causing you stress. You may need to say no to a project or verbalize your feelings in a waking situation. Keep a journal and write your thoughts, experiences, and emotions. You can read them and reflect on how to change things. If you do this, your dreams will give you more solutions than nightmares.

  

The best way to have peace in your sleep is to conquer your suppressed emotions and thoughts during the day. If you don't, your dreams might become nightmares.

 

 

References

 

Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984) by Melissa Bastek https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/

 

Nightmares and the Brain by Scott Edwards 

https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/nightmares-brain

 

A Nightmare On Elm Street Was Inspired By This Horrific True Story

By Sean O'Connell

published October 20, 2014

https://www.cinemablend.com/new/Nightmare-Elm-Street-Was-Inspired-By-Horrific-True-Story-67798.html

Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/ Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/

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 Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984). https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/

Deedee has been analyzing dreams for herself, family and friends for over 30 years. She has taken classes by J.M. DeBord, author of several books about dreams, including the best-selling "Dream Interpretation Dictionary."

Deedee interprets dreams for those who ask. Email hauntedhourpodcast@yahoo.com and read her dream interpretations on her blog https://hauntedhourpodcast.blogspot.com/

A Nightmare On Elm Street Was Inspired By This Horrific True Story .... https://www.cinemablend.com/new/Nightmare-Elm-Street-Was-Inspired-By-Horrific-True-Story-67798.html A Nightmare On Elm Street Was Inspired By This Horrific True Story .... https://www.cinemablend.com/new/Nightmare-Elm-Street-Was-Inspired-By-Horrific-True-Story-67798.htmlA Nightmare On Elm Street Was Inspired By This Horrific True Story .... https://www.cinemablend.com/new/Nightmare-Elm-Street-Was-Inspired-By-Horrific-True-Story-67798.html

 

 

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