Showing posts with label a guide to work through your nightmares. Show all posts
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Monday, December 22, 2025

How to Use Your Nightmares for Growth

 

Abstract dream imagery showing fear turning into insight, representing growth and healing through facing nightmares.

When Nightmares Bring Healing: How Dark Dreams Offer Closure

Nightmares get a bad reputation.
We wake up shaken, unsettled, and sometimes afraid to fall back asleep.
But what if the very dream that terrifies you is actually the one that’s helping you the most?

Last night, I had two dreams—one a full-on horror scene, the other deeply ancestral and spiritual.
When I stepped back and looked at them as symbols instead of threats, something powerful unfolded.

Nightmares aren’t always warnings.
Sometimes they’re closures, clearing out old emotional debris and revealing what’s finally ready to be released

 Dream One: The House, the Disappearing People, and the Dark Basement

The dream opened in a house filled with people of all ages and backgrounds.
But people kept disappearing.
And somehow, I wasn’t just living there—I was watching it happen from a higher awareness.

A man in the house was taking people into a basement, killing them behind a closed door, drowning their screams with strange music.
The basement was pitch black.
At the bottom of the stairs, one direction led to a room someone lived in; the other, a long hallway into a frightening darkness.

At one point I followed an older woman, who gently opened door after door but found nothing.
I remember telling her, “I don’t like to see the monster because then you know what it is.”
She didn’t respond—she didn’t need to.

Later, someone else disappeared.
This time I said, “Someone will notice she’s gone. She has friends here.”
The awareness was growing.

Then I handed my ex a simple spoon and sent him into the hall to see what was happening.
“Make sure no one can tell you were there,” I said.

This dream was dark.
Violent.
A full-on nightmare.

But symbolically?
It was deeply healing.

 How This Nightmare Was Really a Clearing

In dream symbolism:

  •  The house is my inner world.

  • The disappearing people are old identities, patterns, and emotional habits ready to leave.

  • The killer represents the part of me removing what no longer serves me.

  • The basement is the subconscious—where old fears live.

  • The older woman is my intuition showing me there’s actually nothing to fear behind those doors.

  • My ex appearing symbolizes returning old responsibilities to where they belong.

Nightmares like this show us where we’ve matured.

I'm not running.
I'm observing.

I'm not being overpowered.
I'm handing things back that were never mine to carry.

I was not trapped in the basement.
I'm seeing what’s leaving my life—and what I no longer need to keep alive.

This is the kind of nightmare that marks an emotional closing chapter.

 Dream Two: The Young Mother in the Church

The second dream shifted completely.

A woman who looked like my mom—but younger—knelt inside a Catholic church during a ceremony.
Next to her, another woman, and a black-and-white photo of them both.
A relative in the dream gave me a name I can’t remember, and I said, “She lived a full life.”

My mother stood up abruptly, transforming the whole feeling of the dream into something like a life review or ancestral healing moment.
The woman could have been my mother, my grandmother, or even earlier generations—they all look so similar in old photos.

This dream felt like lineage.
Like a thread from the women who came before me.

 How This Dream Offered Closure

When a parent appears young in a dream, it symbolizes:

  • returning to your roots

  • understanding your lineage

  • witnessing generational healing

  • clearing old emotional imprints

  • seeing your family through a new perspective

The black-and-white photo represents ancestral memory—stories stored in the family line.

And my mother standing up felt like a shift.
A release.
An ending of a cycle.

This wasn’t a nightmare—it was closure, too.
But in a quieter, gentler way.

 Why Nightmares Can Be Healing

Most people fear nightmares because of how they feel.
But when we look at them symbolically—not literally—they become some of the most healing dreams we ever have.

Nightmares often appear when:

  • Something in your life is ending

  • Old emotional patterns are being cleared

  • You’re stepping into a higher awareness

  • You’re breaking a cycle

  • You’re finally ready to face what’s been buried

  • You’re closing generational wounds

The darkness isn’t there to punish you.
It’s there to show you what’s leaving.

A nightmare is often your subconscious doing deep work you can’t consciously do during the day.

It’s emotional surgery.

It’s a purge.

It’s closure.

 

If you’ve had a nightmare lately, try asking yourself:

1. What part of me is being released or transformed?
2. What old role or fear am I outgrowing?
3. What am I finally observing instead of being consumed by?
4. What doorway am I scared to open—and why?
5. Is this dream showing me an ending I’m ready for?

Nightmares aren’t curses.
They are invitations.
Powerful, symbolic turning points.

And when you write them down and interpret them, the healing becomes conscious—not just subconscious.

 Want to Work With Your Nightmares Instead of Avoiding Them?

My 30 Day Dream Mapping Journal on Amazon gives you the space, prompts, and structure to explore dreams—especially nightmares—in a healing way.

 Track patterns
 Notice cycles
 Break emotional habits
 Understand the symbols
 Transform fear into insight

If your dreams are getting darker or more symbolic, that’s often a sign of deep internal change.
Your journal becomes the bridge between unconscious healing and conscious clarity.

 Try the 30 Day Dream Mapping Journal for yourself

Saturday, January 21, 2023

A Guide To Work Through Your Nightmares By Deedee Jebrail

 






Nightmares

Nightmares can feel incredibly real. They can frighten us enough that the emotions follow us into the next morning—or even make us afraid to go back to sleep. Our sleeping and waking lives are more connected than we sometimes realize.

There are even movies that grew out of our fascination with nightmares. Remember A Nightmare on Elm Street?

Wes Craven said the idea for the film was inspired in part by stories he read in the Los Angeles Times about Southeast Asian refugees who experienced terrifying nightmares. Some became afraid to sleep, and several later died unexpectedly in their sleep. Craven took that frightening idea—what if something could get you in your dreams?—and turned it into one of the most recognizable horror movies ever made.

It's easy to understand why we want to forget a nightmare as quickly as possible.

But what if, instead of running from a nightmare, we went back and looked at it?

Sometimes the frightening imagery may be exactly what gets our attention.

Nightmares are vivid dreams that create strong negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, anger, or distress. They usually occur during REM sleep and are more common during the second half of the night, when REM periods become longer. Because a nightmare often wakes us, we may remember it much more clearly than an ordinary dream.

Stress, anxiety, trauma, lack of sleep, certain medications, alcohol or other substances, and some physical or mental health conditions can contribute to nightmares. PTSD is also strongly associated with recurring nightmares. Occasional nightmares are common, but if nightmares happen frequently, interfere with sleep or daytime life, or make you afraid to sleep, it is worth talking with a healthcare professional.

But there is another kind of nightmare I want to talk about—the notice-me nightmare.

This is the nightmare that comes once in a while and seems to demand your attention. The imagery may be frightening, but when you go back and examine the dream, you may discover that the fear wasn't necessarily the message. The fear may have been what made you pay attention to the message.

I had one of those nightmares myself.

It frightened me so much that it took me about 35 years to finally sit down and really analyze it. When I did, I realized the dream wasn't telling me that I was powerless or that I needed something outside of myself to protect me.

It was telling me the opposite.

I already had the power.

 

My Nightmare

I was lying in bed, not asleep. It was early, maybe just past dusk. I had been to a church that told me to ask the Holy Spirit to possess my soul so no other entity could. They gave me a prayer. I don't remember the prayer. That is an important detail. As I prayed, a man-type figure flew from the sky and fell onto me like a slab of meat. This being was like all human muscles with no skin, not male or female. The entity then put its wrists over my wrists, ankles over my ankles, and the rest floated above me. We only touch our wrists and ankles. It was so solid and heavy that I could not move. It then began to steal my breath, and I thought, oh no, it was killing me! I started to say I rebuke you in the name of Jesus, but I kept saying I rebuke you in the name of Satan over and over again. I was so scared. I finally pictured the letter J, E, then S, and it was gone. I sat up! That is a scary nightmare, especially when you sit up choking for air!

The Meaning Of The Dream

This nightmare was about recognizing my own power. I had been told that I needed to invite an outside spiritual power in for protection, but my mind turned that idea into something frightening and overpowering. In the end, I was able to break free through my own focus and awareness. The message for me was that I didn’t need to invite anything outside of myself in to feel protected. The power I needed was already within me.

 


This is a guide to working through nightmares

Write the nightmare down while you still remember it. Treat it like a memory. Include the setting, people, objects, emotions, colors, unusual details, and anything that stood out. Then look at the symbols individually and ask what each one means to you. A symbol dictionary can give you ideas, but your own associations and emotions usually matter more.

Next, look at the dream as a whole. What was happening? Where did you feel powerless, afraid, trapped, angry, or threatened? Did anything in the dream remind you of something happening in your waking life? Instead of asking only, What does this symbol mean? ask, What might my mind be trying to work through?

Then change the ending. Rewrite the nightmare so that you regain control. You might defeat the monster, escape the situation, confront the threat, discover that the frightening figure was harmless, or simply choose to walk away. Read your new ending before going to sleep. This technique is similar to imagery rehearsal therapy, which is used to help reduce recurring nightmares.

Pay attention to what you take in before bed. Movies, social media, news, conversations, and stressful experiences can all become material your dreaming mind uses later. If nightmares are a problem for you, try giving your mind something calmer before sleep—a funny show, relaxing music, reading, journaling, or quiet reflection.

Look at what is happening in your waking life as well. Nightmares often become more intense during periods of stress, conflict, grief, fear, or change. Ask yourself whether there is something you have been avoiding, suppressing, or feeling unable to express. Journaling can help you identify those patterns before they show up repeatedly in your dreams.

If you like using crystals or other personal rituals, you can make them part of your bedtime routine. I sometimes keep Black Tourmaline near me because I associate it with protection and grounding. Whether or not you believe a crystal has spiritual properties, a familiar object can also become a reminder that you are safe and in control.

And most importantly, remember that a nightmare does not automatically mean something bad is going to happen. Sometimes it is simply your dreaming mind working with fear, stress, memory, or emotion. The goal isn't always to eliminate nightmares. Sometimes the goal is to understand what they are showing you—and to discover that you may have more power in the dream, and in waking life, than you realized.

 

References

 

Horror History: A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984) by Melissa Bastek https://morbidlybeautiful.com/horror-history-elm-street/

 

Nightmares and the Brain by Scott Edwards 

https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/nightmares-brain

 

A Nightmare On Elm Street Was Inspired By This Horrific True Story

By Sean O'Connell

published October 20, 2014

https://www.cinemablend.com/new/Nightmare-Elm-Street-Was-Inspired-By-Horrific-True-Story-67798.html

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